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21 July 2017
When to say yes and how to say no is a challenge for almost all of us. How can we set appropriate boundaries in our lives, based on biblical foundations? Kate Gard reviews an extremely helpful book.
Co-authored by American psychologists and speakers Dr Henry Cloud and Dr John Townsend, Boundaries was first published 25 years ago. It has gone on to sell 2 million copies worldwide and on reading it, it is clear to see why.
The start of the book introduces and provides an analysis of the concept of boundaries, exploring why they are so important to us. Then, by using fictional day-to-day stories of a day without boundaries and a day with boundaries, the reader can really start to identify with situations within their own lives. It becomes easier for the reader to understand how boundaries work within our day-to-day relationships at work, at church, with friends, and with family.
Boundaries draws upon scripture with many verses, but also uses examples of particular people who demonstrated healthy boundaries such as Jesus, Paul and the good Samaritan, to name a few. These examples help the reader to realise just how essential healthy boundaries are to a life well lived.
From a personal point of view this book has been incredibly helpful – in fact a life-changing read. My only regret is that I wished that I’d read it many years ago. I would encourage anybody who is yet to read it, to do just that. I am sure that even if one does know many of the concepts within the book, there would still be something extremely useful which would help point them to God even more.